Answering What I Can
I’ve never actually been in earthquake but the last week–and especially the last 24 hours–are what I imagine it would be like. It certainly feels like the very foundation upon which I stand has been rocked.
I’m writing this post to address the deluge of emails and messages I’ve received in the last 24 hours. Thank you for the support. You–the community–have opened up your arms to create a safe landing for my leap. Thank you! Thank you!
If I could personally respond to every request for a phone call, or an email, I would. The requests for more information about “sex therapy” are greater than I can handle alone as one person without any kind of administrative staff.
I understand that you require more information to decide the truth for yourself. I know that you need to know what to tell your students. I commend that. This is not the comprehensive story. It is simply the part that I know. I am holding nothing back but the names of the women involved.
This is what I know:
- What makes you believe JF has been using “sex therapy” to “heal” students?
A) His own casual admission to a trusted colleague who shared the disturbing conversation with me.
B) Independently, a second colleague–who has been very close to the situation for a long time–spoke of identical events.
- Will you tell me who these colleagues are?
No. I encourage them to come forward in talking about “sex therapy” but it is ultimately their decision.
- How many instances of “sex therapy” are there?
I have no idea. Specifically, I know of one. That single instance is enough for me to say, “No! I will not in any way be party to this!”
- Do you personally believe that the instance you are aware of is a form of sexual abuse?
- Will you tell me the name of the woman who received this “sex therapy”?
No. This situation requires extreme sensitivity. I refuse to cause her, or any other woman, more harm by exposing her.
- Do you personally believe that the “sex therapy” is more pervasive than the single instance you are aware of?
- Do you believe further investigation is required about “sex therapy”?
- Did you express your concerns about “sex therapy” to the committee?
- Did you express to the committee your concerns about a lack of transparency on the subject of “sex therapy” to the greater community ?
- Do you urge any woman who has received “sex therapy” to come forward?
- Is the community taking any measures to support these women in coming forward?
Yes. The NY, NJ, CT Trikula is working to provide therapists experienced in working with sexual abuse to donate their time to any woman who needs or wants support. I will add that contact information to this post as soon as it becomes available.
- Is it frightening to publicly address the subject of “sex therapy“?
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